tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735290305583110351.post9047977202600135837..comments2023-10-17T07:29:39.877-07:00Comments on Oinkstop - Adventures in Weight Loss, Divorce, and Personal Improvement: Ongoing StrugglesOinkstophttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11013692212821233387noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735290305583110351.post-6081995559926408342007-07-14T07:21:00.000-07:002007-07-14T07:21:00.000-07:00I know I don't you personally, but I can relate to...I know I don't you personally, but I can relate to your feelings of depression and "being trapped". I have been there many times myself.<BR/><BR/>Please know that I am sincere in my offer to lend an ear or a shoulder if you need to vent a bit.<BR/><BR/>What I do at times like this -- sometimes it takes dragging one's self kicking and screaming away from the negative spiral of thinking. I look at it as "lovingly reparenting myself" -- how would I help my daughter feel better and then apply those principles to myself. Find ways to sooth yourself - bubble baths, long walks, listening to music, little mini vacations in your mind to reduce stress. <BR/><BR/>I try not to force myself to feel good - but rather create time and space to allow myself to look away from the negative and enjoy the moment and step in to peace and joy.<BR/><BR/>Finding purpose also helps me - I work in a deadend cubicle office job -- but I "know" I am contributing to something bigger - I am creating a life for my daughter, I can help others in small ways and paying my dues at the office make that possible -- I also try to smile a bit at work and help others around me -- they often feel trapped too and stressed -- it's amazing how finding a way to make a joke or two and vent a little and share a smile helps the whole office feel a bit better.<BR/><BR/>If you find you can't beat this alone, don't hestiate to reach out to others, see a doctor, take care of you. <BR/><BR/>wishing you health and happiness, Lady RoseCynthia Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11499286104507733785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735290305583110351.post-35426589406689542372007-07-13T17:02:00.000-07:002007-07-13T17:02:00.000-07:00Sorry you are feeling so down. I don't have much t...Sorry you are feeling so down. I don't have much to add here that hasn't already been said...just wanted to add my hugs and support. <BR/><BR/>It's true - happiness is an attitude, it's not something that happens to you, it's something you create. I think about all those little children in Africa...they have nothing...nothing to eat, nothing to drink, nothing to wear...and yet have you ever seen a bigger smile? Those smiles light up the world! What do they have to be happy about? It's all in the attitude - they choose to be happy and have fun and celebrate life despite their circumstances.<BR/><BR/>I hope you choose happiness. Find something to smile about, find something that lights up your world and makes you happy. You've come such a long way already - I can't wait to see where you go from here and the happiness you find along the way.Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15655926751033333222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735290305583110351.post-53477222057734127342007-07-13T09:21:00.000-07:002007-07-13T09:21:00.000-07:00Dear fellow sojourner,This is more than post vacat...Dear fellow sojourner,<BR/>This is more than post vacation blues. I think you have a serious issue of depression and I would urge, beg, and plead with you to see your doctor very soon. Sometimes these things can be fixed up very quickly - at least make you feel better and more positive so you are then able to deal with the real issues in a realistic manner. Honey, this sounds serious to me. There are many who care for you and are praying for you to get better. Please call your doctor and at least discuss it. The sun can shine again for you - but you have to take some steps forward.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05000458717596988346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735290305583110351.post-6622984271481526752007-07-13T08:50:00.000-07:002007-07-13T08:50:00.000-07:00Hi Oink, Nigel (aka FatBloke, but I don't like to ...Hi Oink, <BR/>Nigel (aka FatBloke, but I don't like to call him that) sent me over here. I just want you to know you aren't alone. You've got people who don't even know you who care about you. <BR/>The others have said what I would tell you. Step away from your computer and take a walk...it <B>will </B> help. Try to think positively, I know that sounds stupid right now. Maybe make a list of all of the <B>good</B>things about your life. There <B>are good things.</B><BR/>You "feel stuck" right now, and everyone has felt that same way at one time or another. I know that I have. Don't give up. And, realize that we often have a tendency to want things we don't have. The grass is not always greener on the other side of that fence.<BR/>Talk to friends. Focus on the good. Continue to eat in a healthy way, get enough sleep and exercise.<BR/>But, if you still have that dark mood, don't hesitate to get to a doctor. Depression is a serious matter. <BR/>Like Nigel, I wish I could come give you a big hug.<BR/><A HREF="http://www.thiseclecticlife.com" REL="nofollow">This Eclectic Life </A>Shelly Kneupper Tuckerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14067826245080183798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735290305583110351.post-57268741492579133432007-07-13T06:57:00.000-07:002007-07-13T06:57:00.000-07:00oink.....sorry i'm late.....but i'm here....late a...oink.....sorry i'm late.....but i'm here....late and all....<BR/><BR/>like fatblokethin, i understand the dark place....been there...a few times (i seem to be depression prone) and what i've discovered...thru faith and also through life in general is that happiness is a CHOICE. <BR/><BR/>True happiness does not come from outside circumstances, but from within...bc there are people who have "perfect" circumstances who arent happy....yet people in dead in jobs who are on the line of poverty can be happy.<BR/><BR/>you have to decide to be happy....and when you do, when you make that conscious decision to choose happiness DESPITE your circumstances, that's when the cloud lifts. the air gets easier to breath and you can continue on like you know you should......<BR/><BR/>Excercise helps to lift the cloud too....if you can't CHOOSE happiness just yet, getting up and moving your butt will help. seriously, i've done it before...a few times.<BR/><BR/>i know you are exhausted after work...but thats something that you will have to push thru...you might have to push through it every time...check out Walmart and pick up some exercise dvd's...try belly dancing, kickboxing, Pilates (warning: very difficult!), strip teasing, line dancing, hip hop aerobics, whatever!<BR/><BR/>whateva it takes to get up and off your butt.....bc that will make a difference. sitting down and wallowing in it makes it darker...i know. and then you want to give up.<BR/><BR/>its not easy for us, oink. i know...its hard. maybe too hard. and it aint fair. but it is what it is....so we have to push thru. use the blog to vent...get out all the dark stuff....and then work on getting better.<BR/><BR/>It's a choice.Naturally Blessedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13212011826981720568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735290305583110351.post-64280898836090806822007-07-13T05:44:00.000-07:002007-07-13T05:44:00.000-07:00Is it possible that you are a bit depressed? I do ...Is it possible that you are a bit depressed? I do know exactly how you feel. I was completly out of sorts after a short holiday in February. Tooks week sto get back on track. Maybe taking a few aspects of your vacation and trying to incorporate them into your daily routine. Also, add some exercise to your daily routine for a while, that might help too. <BR/>Hugs, and keep posting, we are here! jojoJojohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15653329855746781044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735290305583110351.post-8596039021038736962007-07-13T02:41:00.000-07:002007-07-13T02:41:00.000-07:00Hi Oink,I am really sorry to read your post. Sorry...Hi Oink,<BR/><BR/>I am really sorry to read your post. Sorry that you are in a very deep dark place at the moment.<BR/><BR/>I have no answers other than encouragement I'm afraid...<BR/><BR/>I know how you are feeling (not in any patronising 'day time TV' way) - I have been EXACTLY in your situation in the past and it is a long dark tunnel but there really is light at the end of it. HONESTLY.<BR/><BR/>Positive thought is a wonderful thing (if you have got it) - focus on the good things in life, and before you say it, EVERYONE has something good in their lives, even if it is just a favourite TV show to escape into!!<BR/><BR/>I really wih I could appear by magic on your doorstep and give you a hug and help you through this but I am not a time traveller (and I don't have a stealth fighter in the garage!!).<BR/><BR/>This is the time to focus on things you can change and blank out the things you can't. <BR/><BR/>Concentrate on the things in your power to control - your food intake, your mental outlook and forget the rest for now. <BR/><BR/>I hope this helps - it's not much but it is all I have!<BR/><BR/>I wish you luck and hope you find peace soon.FatBlokeThinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01672864195887694730noreply@blogger.com